Renovation of ALL SORTS of Relationships
- Keep expectations low and be pleased when they are exceeded
- Gently challenge behavior that doesn’t fit the 4 keys in any situation (but pick a time and place that is appropriate)
- Become self aware of your own emotions and learn how to express them without blame
- Love without conditions
When you decide to love unconditionally you know what you are going to do: Pursuing a safe connection with that person, regardless of their behaviour, unless it is unsafe. (My lizard doesn’t have teeth so I’m pretty safe)
Anxiety might arise when you sense differences in the relationship, and fear will tempt you to run away or get angry. But by loving unconditionally, you commit to keep moving toward one another even when you aren’t getting your way and feel angry or fearful. It takes courage to love unconditionally, but the renovation is always worth it, because you have maintained your identity!
- What would it look like to move toward someone when someone makes you uncomfortable?
- What is your relationship style under stress?
- Can you imagine what your current relationships would look like with a renovation?